“Keep your face always toward the sunshine, and shadows will fall behind you."
- Walt Whitman
“In your mind, getting back to something basic means: giving it your attention; acknowledging in your heart, your emotions, that it’s important; committing honestly to it, and making a plan about it.” – Rick Hanson, PhD
I can recall many years ago when I played volleyball, and our team was making unforced errors and beating ourselves, someone on the team would eventually remind us to get back to basics or fundamentals and they’d say, “It all starts with a pass”, meaning when the serve comes over the net, our most basic job was to pass the ball to the setter, and that was the first thing that had to happen before we could even make an offensive play.
Over the years, I’ve found getting back to basics or fundamentals a helpful mental tool for getting out of my own way many times. When feeling overwhelmed and not sure which thing to tackle first, get back to basics, start small, one foot in front of the other. This will be different for all of us. This might mean getting up and taking a shower, or making a cup of coffee, scheduling that overdue appointment, feeding the cat, or cleaning the toilet. Whichever is the case, committing to taking the first step towards the most basic task, must happen before you can move forward.
If you're looking to get back to basics and simplify your life, here are some tips that may help:
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I wish you a healthy Summer and look forward to meeting you when the time is right for you. Until then….
Tracy Hunt, MSEd, LPCC
Owner, Turning Inward LLC
“Gentle Support for Difficult Times”
Spring 2023 At Last! I hope this newsletter finds you with a healthy and happy start to the Spring season.
“Every flower must grow through dirt."
Laurie Jean Sennott
Do You Identify as Being a Black Sheep?
I meet a lot of people who identify as the "black sheep" of their family. Although the term black sheep may have a negative connotation, the people I meet are anything but. Rather, they are brave and cycle breakers forging their own path in life different from their family of origin. Read on to learn more...
Being the black sheep of the family can be a difficult experience. It means that you are seen as different from the rest of your family, and often not in a positive way. You may feel like you don't fit in, and that you are constantly being judged or criticized by your family members.
There can be many reasons why someone is considered the black sheep of their family. Perhaps they have different interests, beliefs, or values than the rest of their family. Maybe they have made choices or decisions that are not in line with their family's expectations, such as choosing a non-traditional career path, or not following a particular religion.
Being the black sheep of the family can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and even rejection. It can be challenging to maintain a strong relationship with family members who do not accept or understand you. However, it is important to remember that you are not alone, and that there are many people who have had similar experiences.
It may be helpful to seek support from friends, a therapist, or a support group. It may also be beneficial to have an open and honest conversation with your family about how you feel, and to try to find common ground and understanding, if this can be done safely. Ultimately, it is important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, which may involve using boundaries, distancing yourself from your family, or making difficult choices. Ultimately, you get to decide.